When loved ones pass away, they often leave behind a lifetime of personal goods that must be sorted through, divided up, and often discarded. Sometimes they are large items like homes or furniture, perhaps a collection of artwork or figurines, or some passed-down serving utensils from a foreign land. One group of items that is often the hardest to decide what to keep versus let go of it is jewelry.
Several months ago we got approached by a young woman who was trying to figure out what to do with all the jewelry that had been left behind by her Grandmother when she passed away. There were many small boxes filled with rings, necklaces, brooches, and all other assorted types of jewelry. She felt overwhelmed with the thought of letting any of the items go, but also knew in her small living space it wasn’t practical to keep it all. Experts in both organization and estate sales have some great insight into ways to tackle those lovely pearls and more that have been passed down by someone you love. Here are some keys to think about:
What Has Sentimental Value:
Did your Grandma wear that favorite emerald brooch for every holiday? When you think of her, is it decorating her sweater as she stirs that big pot of soup? Was it her favorite because of who gave it to her, or some other sentimental reason? If the answer to any of these is yes, keep it. That small item brings back loving memories, and there might be a Christmas you want to wear in memory of her. If there is a deep sentimental connection to an item, hold onto it.
Will You Wear It:
Spread out all the other jewelry items that have been left to you. Start by taking out everything that fits your style. Does that pearl necklace go great with your work blouses? Does that funky pair of copper bird earrings look great with your hair up? And those cool ceramic bead bracelets- if they fit your style add them to your collection.
What Has Monetary Value:
For all the items that are left, find a trusted jeweler in your area. Many will offer appraisals as a free service. Schedule a time to sit down and have them look through everything questionable that is left. The jeweler will be able to identify the maker, test the metals, examine any stones, and give you a reasonable appraisal for each item. At that point, you can decide what items you would like to sell, keep, or donate.
By taking a little time to think about the memories behind items, what fits your unique style, and the financial value of items, deciding what jewelry to keep can be relatively stress-free. You can have peace donating those random purple hoop earrings, keep that ruby ring of your great-grandma, and occasionally pin on the emerald brooch of Grandma’s as you celebrate the holidays with those you love.
Explain the pitfalls to minimize risk:
While the benefits of technology are great, unfortunately, it can also be used to take advantage of unsuspecting people. Seniors specifically are often targeted for schemes to get money and other sensitive information. Whether it be from phishing emails, nefarious phone calls or texts, or inviting malware onto a device, it is easy to see why this is a prevalent issue in our society. The best way to combat this with parents is first to educate them. Walk through examples of phishing scams, and how to identify the source of emails. Explain how companies will never call or email and ask for passwords or other information. And when in doubt always confirm something is legit before providing personal information.
